My Epiphany Moment — Stop Trying to Do it All

When You Say Yes to Something You Are Saying No to Something Else

Justine McGrath


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This morning I did my regular meditation and felt refreshed and peaceful afterwards as usual.

When I began my day’s work it was a different matter, I am self-employed and I absolutely love my work. I consider myself unbelievably blessed. However this morning something wasn’t right.

Recently I agreed to be part of a new content creation platform. I had agreed after a short meeting with one of the founders. It sounded like a great opportunity. I had said yes without thinking much about it. This morning I had to create some content for the platform.

But, here’s the thing — I hate creating video content. And I mean Hate with a capital H! What on earth was I thinking?

I believe in saying yes to opportunities, but my problem is I am always saying yes to things which means I can end up spreading myself really thin on the ground.

I had a moment of real clarity this morning where I thought, I am not focusing on my strengths. I am trying to do things that are not my strengths just because I think it sounds like yet another great opportunity.

This is all part of developing your self-awareness. I thought I had nailed this self-awareness thing seeing as I have been teaching it for so long, but here’s the wonderful thing about growth and learning. It never stops.

I had such a strong gut feeling this morning that something was seriously off balance. I sat down and asked myself a series of questions.

“What’s wrong? Why are you feeling like this? Is this right for you?

My gut was saying ‘NO,’ in a very clear way.

I really do believe part of the clarity that came to me was a result of my meditation. It always helps steer me in the direction of where I need to go and I feel that I am veering off my path quite a lot at the moment.

So my understanding today is to be really clear before I say yes to anything else. If it’s part of the clear focus and strategy I have for my life and career, then great. If not, then it’s a clear no!

I’ll leave you with a quote my Dad used to say to me a lot from Confucius. It’s one I will certainly be keeping in mind!

“Life is really simple but we insist on making it complicated.” Confucius.



Justine McGrath

ICF certified Executive Coach. Specialist in EI. Author ‘Conversations with my Father — Jack Kyle,’ and ‘The Elephant Crossing.’